Its fallen and wont get up 6

We all laugh at the commercial no matter how hard we try not to “I have fallen and I can’t get up”. I know for elderly persons this poses more of a greater concern from a broken bone or any ailment that would make balance difficult. Now apply it to the penis and rethink that guys, Yes this week I have decided to take on ED or erectile dysfunction.


So what is it? Should I be worried about it? And how do I either prevent or treat the condition.

What Is Erectile Dysfunction? Erectile dysfunction or ED is the inability to achieve or sustain an erection suitable for sexual intercourse. Problems with erections may stem from medications, chronic illnesses, poor blood flow to the penis, drinking too much alcohol, or being too tired. Lifestyle changes, medications, and other treatments are often used to treat ED.*

So what are the signs? An occasional problem achieving an erection is nothing to worry about. But failure to do so more than half of the time at any age may indicate a condition that needs treatment.*

Now the real question, should I be worried about it affecting me. That would depend on if you fall into the risk factors or not. I found this article that was packed with some great information.

Now all joking aside a few years ago I was going through a rough time. My now ex-wife was being, well herself, and it was making any kind of physical contact not appealing. I would find it almost impossible to get aroused anywhere around her and I was starting to think that ED was an issue I needed to be concerned about. I was under high stress at work, and home, and the occasional sex was very lack luster and bland. She would lay there and I would do my thing and then both roll over and go to sleep.

I think now looking back (and the fact that now I am a walking horn dog according to my current wife) that it was psychological more than anything physical. Don’t get me wrong there seems to be many issues and concerns that men need to look into but if that loving feeling is gone then it stands to reason the erection will soon follow.

First in a situation where an erection with the partner seems to be virtually impossible think about if you find that person attractive. Do they still light your fire in some way or has it come to the point where you would rather watch porn alone and get off rather than spend 2 minutes alone and touch them. If they still turn you on please seek a medical professional, if not then the problem is a bit different.

I was watching porn alone every chance I could just to get off. I was frustrated and until my ex and I came to the agreement that I should seek someone who would make me happy the erection was only for my long time girlfriend Rosie. I knew what I liked and what I wanted, and it wasn’t happening at home. The rest is history for me as I got my grove back and am with the woman I have dreamed of for years.

Another thing I want to talk about here is a condition called porn creep. According to the Urban Dictionary the definition of porn creep is a condition that results from the constant or excessive watching of pornographic material. It is characterized by an inability to get an erection under circumstances that do not involve the watching of pornographic material, due to the lack of psychological connection between other human contact and sex. One treatment involves watching porn until the erection is achieved then having sex, this re-establishes the connection between other people and sex. This condition is more frequent in virgins as the initial connection has not been made. limp

So now this is a different animal but one that even men with a partner can fall into. The mind is a powerful thing and when a fantasy world that is presented by porn becomes the only release then an erection becomes difficult or impossible to achieve. Basically the visual need is so great it over rides the body’s physical response to stimulation. This would ring true in a long term relationship where the man has remained faithful and has not turned to others for the physical release he needs.


In the end one thing I think rings true for all men, we measure our worth and importance by our actual or potential potency. Often it affects self-esteem and confidence and how we interact with one another. I used to joke and say if my dick stopped working then I had no reason to be alive. Looking back I think a part of me really believe that and the short span I was having difficulty getting my penis to work right made me step back and think, I put a lot of value on one part on my body. Now I need to do my best to make sure it is in working order.

*Information from WebMD

About Lord Raven

Lord Raven is a master at blending both the erotic and the macabre. He is a life Style Dominant who came into things in this way of living in the “traditional” manner and has been involved in BDSM for more than 20 years. He is a highly social creature by nature and his hobbies include paddle making, knife play, general deviance, gratuitous flirtation, and of course rough sex.

6 thoughts on “Its fallen and wont get up

  • Big-DaddyM

    Great thoughts on the need for a connection beyond the physical in a LTR. It seems to be often overlooked in main stream conversations since a big pharma companies can’t sell you a pill to fix that one. As for Porn Creep my opinion is so many couple have a problem sharing and communicating sexual wants, needs, and desires that the inclusion of the external fantasies brings these more to the forefront.

    Not if you’ll excuse me I’m off to play a little porno vamp on the guitar.

    • Lord Raven Post author

      Thanks Brother, I agree that communication is the key. Nothing wrong with porn in itself, I should have been clearer, it is when it become a replacement for the real thing with a partner.

      Rock on!

  • cammiesonthefloor

    I love how you guys are doing the penis project, so much so that my friend is writing to possibly contribute.
    The honesty of this post is awesome, and I’m sure many men confuse lack of desire with inability to perform. I love porn, and agree with M that many people have such a problem communicating needs and wants that they go to others or to porn rather than address it with a partner.

    • Lord Raven Post author

      We would be glad to have him (or her) contribute to the penis project.
      I try to be honest and sometimes as I write these it is like damn I have had a fucked up life…lol.
      Thanks for reading Cammies, always good to have you along 🙂

  • Gemma Jones

    Thanks for sharing your experiences so honestly. It is hard to watch a guy who has a problem with either erection or premature ejaculation. How the partner reacts can have such an impact on the problem and the relationship. Like so many things in the bedroom there is often not a proper conversation about where everyone is at and it festers like a sore.

    Thanks for sharing.

    • Lord Raven Post author

      Your welcome Gemma, and thank you for reading.
      I agree it is difficult to know or worse be the guy who experiences those issues. True that a partners reaction can make or break a person in one of those situations. Conversation and communication is so vital for a healthy relationship on so many levels.

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