Living with an alpha-sub 16

Often I have wondered what I got myself into, life has its own challenges enough but this is more a pleasure all its own. Living with a sub can be fun and exciting but living with an alpha sub even more so. Not a day goes by that I am not reminded how lucky I am, and that I got to be able to think fast and keep on my toes.


Recently things have become more interesting as we upped the stakes and made bigger plans (more on this later) One thing I know for sure is I adore her but that being said I still have to keep the perspective I am the Dom and she is the sub. An alpha is one who likes to test the waters, not that it is a bad thing, and wants to know she holds that place. Her Dom has to be strong, for a crack in his stance and soon he will find himself in a world of hurt trying to keep her in line. Often alphas are mistaken for bratty subs, but a key difference is a bratty sub is just that, a BRAT! I personally have no tolerance for that.


A day in the life around here is us waking up and getting ready for the day, sharing the bathroom like many do but often one or both do something that sexually charges the other. Then it is off to work to take on the day, texts back and forth or tweets to let the other know we are on the others mind, unless things get crazy at work. Then to the home front. Evening is more our play time as neither of us are really morning people. It can be a simple light like regular “nilla” people have with TV or a movie, all the way to an impromptu scene (I am so not the planning kind of guy) For those who think living Dom/sub 24/7 means sceneing every night I got to tell you it so does not happen. After all where would the fun of it go after a while. It would be like dining at a posh restaurant every night day in and out for years, sooner or later it would lose its appeal and become just another thing to check of the list of things done today. We don’t want it to become this so it happens when it happens. This is where I got to be on my toes, some nights she is all ready and I am dragging from a long day, time to step two and smack her butt in line. *chuckles* Other time it is the opposite and I do give her space if she needs it but for the most part she is easy to get going so things move along with just a bit more teasing and taunting.


The one thing I have learned so far is that living with an alpha sub is the most rewarding thing in my life. I am truly blessed and can not imagine a more perfect match for our personalities. Patience (her least favorite word) is needed on both sides, for there will be a learning curve as is with all relationships. This being said it almost felt like finding a part of myself. So if you find yourself squared off with a strong willed woman or man they might be saying what my sub is, take the reins and lead because otherwise you’re in for one wild ride.





About Lord Raven

Lord Raven is a master at blending both the erotic and the macabre. He is a life Style Dominant who came into things in this way of living in the "traditional" manner and has been involved in BDSM for more than 20 years. He is a highly social creature by nature and his hobbies include paddle making, knife play, general deviance, gratuitous flirtation, and of course rough sex.

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